I am a shopaholic and no one I know is as addicted to the retail therapy as I. Sometimes I do feel guilty of it. I am known for my ways amongst my friends and family. But when I go to shopping malls or districts, I find that I am not alone. There are millions like me. I feel like I am a part of a community of shoppers. And then I feel so much better (haha)
When I saw this Weekly Photo Challenge, I knew I wanted to showcase the community I belong to, sometimes not very proudly.
One day I was feeling specifically sad for feeling sad about not shopping. I mean I didn’t go shopping for almost 10 days (I shop for small amount of money more frequently than one big shopping spree). And it started to get to me. I didn’t want to be addicted. I called my sister, who is a self-confessed miser. She is so good with money that she never wastes even a penny, she calculates and recalculates and then calculates some more before buying anything new (even on SALE!)
I poured out my feelings. I told her that I felt bad about being a shopaholic because even though I shop for a particular amount of money (not more than 10% of the income) but sometimes I feel the obligation to go and see things. I cannot not go out and see things. And 8 out of 10 times, I ‘have’ to buy something even if it is a mini hand cream. I am especially addicted to makeup since becoming a beauty blogger (Read my beauty blog here).
She listened to me quietly and then said something that will forever be ingrained on my mind.
She said,”I read a book and one particular line made me think of you and your dilemma about shopping. (the book says) God has given us certain traits, tendencies and habits. One can eat, drink and sleep only when He grants us the permission. Similarly, you have been allowed to buy things that you love from your money. I cannot even buy myself a lipstick even if I need it or the rare occasion when I want it. Maybe I do not have a permission to spend money.
So rather than feeling guilty, try to think once or twice before spending. But you if cannot, don’t be harsh on yourself. Once you have bought it, make the most of it, try to enjoy it. There are millions out there who would love to be in your place.”
I felt a lot better after hearing this. She usually always lectures me about curbing my urges and buying stuff but that day she made me feel that it was okay not to be perfect and sometimes not finding the balance.
And ironically, I didn’t feel the “need” to go shopping. My shopping urges have not stopped but I do think I have found my balance. Shopping is not bad if done in a controlled, mature way. And I would like to believe that I am getting there!
What is the one thing you would really like to change about yourself? Has someone said something to you that made a lot of difference to your life?